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Detach with Love

1bquackSometimes in relationships, we find we are going in opposite directions from our friends or loved ones. Try not to get your feathers ruffled, waddle along your own path and detach with love.

It is hard when relationships aren’t going the way we want.  Sometimes we realize it is not all it “quacked” up to be.  We invest so much of our time and love in people and then wonder what happened when we seem to be moving in a different direction from our loved ones.  Try not to take it personally. Sometimes people come into our lives for a season because we have something to learn from each other. When the lesson is learned, the energy to hold the relationship together may not be there.  Or maybe, we are supposed to learn that we aren’t supposed to extend ourselves where it isn’t appreciated.  Almost always, forcing it will likely  cause us to be more frustrated and anxious.

If you find yourself in this situation, always remember that if something is meant to be, it will come back around naturally.  Don’t force it.  Try  to focus on the many other wonderful things and people in your life. There is always someone who will appreciate your positive approach and beautiful spirit.   And remind yourself, “you got this!” © August 31, 2014, Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

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Our Existence

ExistenceThis morning in meditation I heard the words, “you know why you are here.”   Sometimes we are here in our earthly bodies and we enjoy our experience.  At other times, we might feel like we are going through the motions of life without direction or aim.  Yet, if we stop and think about it all, we know why we are here.   Somewhere in our core, our heart is hearing a call from God to fulfill our purpose.  Each and every one of us have a job to complete while we are here but many of us get distracted by life and forget.  The chaos around us can pull us off our path until something happens to help us “remember” who we are and what we are about.

Distracting us from our path is easy.  We have so many gadgets and so many material goals in life, we can often forget what is really important.   If Satan exists, He is there tempting us with “stuff” every moment of our lives.  Once we get those “things”, we often look for the bigger and better version.  Though we think we are pursing happiness, being distracted takes us further away from our inner peace.  How distracted are we? Where do we place our priorities?  Do we think of God and what he wants us to do?  Do we think of how we can help other people?  Do we spend time praying and asking God to bring peace to our world?  Do we give back? Is it in our consciousness every day that we have things we can do to help, even if they are small gestures?

Truthfully, we are all here to help and it is apparent that  the world really needs it.  As a whole, we don’t take very good care of the planet or of each other.   There is no shortage of things for us to do to help.   We are needed in abundance.  When people ask, “What is my purpose?”  The answer is to help whatever way we can.  It may be a vocation or it just may be our way of life.   There isn’t always a defined answer but it can become more defined the more we work toward giving back to God.  The more we do, the more the opportunities for helping will open up to us.

Remember, our existence here is about us.  It is not about “you”.  The more we think of how we can help others, the more we become content with being whoever we are.  We begin to develop a new sense of self.  We get the benefits of being strongly connected to God and of living a God centered life.   We have focus and we know each day is an opportunity to fulfill what we are supposed to do while we are here.  We know this already but sometimes we forget.  Now is a good time to remember.

Each day ask God to plan your day for you.  Ask Him where you can be of help.  Then be conscious of the opportunities in front of you.   Are you being asked to listen to someone who needs support?  Are you being ask to pray for God’s angels to help others?  Are you being asked to use your skills to do something greater?  Ask and the answers will come.  As with most things, it is important to stay in today and do what is put in front of you.  The rest will develop naturally as it is intended to be.© May 4, 2014, Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

 

 

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Faith

faith3Beginning my path, I did not know where it would take me.  From the time I was a child, I had a strong spiritual connection.  It was something that “happened” to me more than it was something I participated in.  The strongest aspect of my intuition is my empathic ability.  I learned early to sense if someone was safe or not.  The ability to feel someone’s energy and to know their intentions is a pretty strong ability I experience.   Just as easily, I can sense people’s gifts and their light energy.  Sensing energy can be a pitfall.  It can create mental confusion and stress if you are not adept at clearing it and shielding from it.   Many people have a natural empathic ability and they are not always aware if the pain they experience is something that belongs to them  or if they picked it up from another person.  Feeling pain can be a block to staying connected to God’s light and love.  At the same time, it is His light and love that frees us from all the negative energy around us.

I once knew a special person who was taught conflicting messages about God.  God was used as part of any discipline he experienced and he became confused about whether God is loving or punishing. The actions of his parent caused that sense of confusion.   Many human acts are often blamed on God and then people associate the negative that happens in the world with Him.  They wonder how “it” could happen if He exists or they think He does not love them if they experience it.   Certain things are inevitable in our life experience.  We will experience death and loss as a natural progression of things.   Sometimes we are called home and sometimes our spirit wants to go back there.  We learn our lessons here and we become free of our physical constrictions so that we can return to God and live in spirit.  The rest is often a result of the actions of people who choose to live a life separate from God.  God allows us free will and choice.  When we choose to seek His love and protection,  we are often shielded from much of the negativity that would otherwise come our way.

Being a seeker means learning to take time to sit, pray and ask for His help and protection.  Staying connected to God requires taking action toward learning about Him and choosing Him to be a part of your life.  It is easier to stay connected if we seek help and healing for any past pain or difficulties we experience.  We have a clearer and more stable connection to Him if we feel a greater sense of love verses pain.  Sometimes all that is required is to ask in prayer that our emotions be healed and that He help us feel His love.

As I write this, I am reminded of how we are all just students learning.  I am trying to allow myself to be lead on this path in whatever way God wants.  I constantly seek His help in relationships, in work and in life.  I feel like the longer I am on this spiritual path, the more the ups and downs of life fine tune me into what He wants me to be.  It is a daily leap of faith and surrender.  Sometimes there is fear and sometimes there is exhilaration.   On those days I take the leap, I feel like a child jumping into the safe hands of my father.   © December 29, 2013, Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

 

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Random Events

Tpropelledoday I asked for a message and I saw a young girl twirling a toy propeller in the air.  In the meditation the wind carried it random places and she watched as though she had no control over where it went.  The message was that God moves through and around all things and He is in control of what happens.

Life is a series of events that can sometimes appear quite random.  We may be trying to steer things in a certain direction only to have them change course.  This can even happen in relationships in which we thought we knew the path they were taking only to be surprised when the direction of those relationships changes.  Life would not appear so random if we could anticipate all things before they happen and understand the meaning behind why.   Even for  intuitive people, we are not supposed to see “all” things because that would interrupt God’s plan.  For those that we do, it does not exempt any of us from feeling our human emotions and disappointments.

Recently, I have been asking to be more aware.  When life gets busy, I find myself using my awareness more for others than myself.  In so doing, I left myself vulnerable and trusting in ways that I shouldn’t have.   Being very human, we all do that.  We want to love and give and then find that we have ignored things that need to be addressed.  When we look back, we can then see the events were not random.  We just weren’t paying attention.

The moral to the meditation is that we need to practice conscious awareness.  Though things may seem random, God is in control.  He is guiding the direction of all things, even when He lets us be in charge.  His presence may be subtle or it may be strong.  When we exercise our faith, we stay in the solution and we allow the universal flow to happen in our lives. We are given the awareness and guidance we need to be successful in all areas of our lives.   It is important to be a conscious observer, to ask for Him for guidance  and to allow things to flow with effortless ease.   © December 28, 2013 Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

 

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Hard Conversations

conversationsI was reminded yesterday of hard conversations.   Hard conversations are usually the most important.   They are filled with meaning and love.  They take us to the heart of who we are and what we really believe and want from those around us.  We often don’t want to have hard conversations and many people avoid them.  Fear can keep us from broaching things that need to and should be said.   When we have  those conversations, we talk from our spirit and become our most authentic and empowered.

I once read a book called the Tibetan Book of Living and Dying.  It mentioned a very important belief of living life like each day is your last so that you may live with no regrets. This is mainly because how we live affects our afterlife.  If we recognize that belief as true, that means it is important to go within and self-analyze.  Self-analysis is a form of checks and balances which allow us to live knowing we have been loving, forgiving and that we have done our best.  In our society, we often live busy lives and taking time to self-analyze can be hard to do.  We also have learned to try to seek “things” that will make us feel good rather than to look inside of ourselves to find peace within.  To protect our egos we often:  avoid hard conversations, hold on to resentments, use our defensiveness as a shield, live materialistically  and more.   It is sometimes not until we have been confronted with mortality that we begin our inner journey.  It is when those important questions arise that we more deeply look at ourselves and our purpose here.  Questions like, “If I die tomorrow, how will others remember me?” or “If I die tomorrow, will I go to Heaven?”  or “Did they know how much I loved them?”

The word “ego” really represents how we “ease God out.”  We begin thinking we are in control and living accordingly.  It can feel harder to self-analyze and to live from your spiritual center but it brings with it a more peaceful life.  It helps us to focus on what is really important.  It helps us to spend our time here wisely and from a place of love.  If we truly allow God “in”, we are allowing Good Orderly Direction to guide our lives.

Each of us is special and has a purpose here to fulfill.  Some of us do not even realize we are already living that purpose.  Each time we are there for someone else or share our faith, we impact others in a positive way.  With the crime and struggles we see in our society today, it is important to use our spiritual strength to create positive change.  Society breaking down is a sign of ego based living and result of pushing God out.   Our individual actions either contribute to that breakdown or fight against it.  We are all connected and we are each capable of creating positive change through things we do or say.   We each have a purpose and a responsibility in that whether big or small.

In meditation, I had a hard conversation.  I asked Jesus for some guidance.  My ego was hurt and I wanted to hear from Him some platitude or other.  As loving a spirit as he is,  I heard hard words.  He in no way wanted to stroke my ego.  He lovingly put me in my place.  He allowed me to release my selfish thinking much the same way we parent our children.  He told me that I needed to let go of what my ego wanted because he had expectations of me.   That I have a job to do and to basically move on from trivial things.   My idea that I could indulge in a little self-pity went out the window and I moved on.   Along with that, I released  my part in the problem and got focused on what I’m supposed to do.   Though I didn’t hear what I wanted to hear, I am grateful to be able to leave behind any negative thinking I was holding onto.

In doing readings, I am blessed. I have lots of hard conversations with people.  I see people in their most vulnerable and real state.  I’m given the opportunity to meet them there and I pray that the words that come out of my mouth are the most loving and authentic I am capable of being.   We each have the opportunity to be that for others if we remain open to listening and experiencing a deep connection with each person we meet.  When we do, it helps us far more than we are likely to help the other person.  We receive healing as we allow our own needs to take a back seat and we become reminded of what is important.  Life, Love, compassion and connection are just a few of the things we are privileged to experience and they are far more valuable in character building than any “thing” we could strive to attain.

Be open to hard conversations.  God may expect you to either be the recipient, the listener or the person speaking.  Look at them as an opportunity to grow and to make a positive impact.   Recognize opportunities that allow you to: make an amends,  to help  someone with direction or to share feelings.   Whatever the conversation is, be loving and be real.   When you struggle with what to say, ask God to speak through you.  Face each situation lovingly and from a perspective that leaves you free of regret.   Look at those moments as the gift they are.  We each get the opportunity to touch the lives of others and in so doing; we become changed as well. © November 22, 2013, Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

 

 

 

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Feeling connected to God

God1We don’t always feel our connection to God.  Sometimes the chaos around us can cause us to feel separate from Him.  It is those times that we can go within to seek that connection in order to turn things in a positive direction.  Simply close your eyes, take a few deep breaths,  envision light all around you and say “God”.  Then ask Him to help you feel His love.   Sit with that intention for a moment and see what happens.  Continue to ask until you sense Him.  It may happen right away or it may take time.  We get more results when we are dedicated to practicing going within.  © November 4, 2013 Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

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Love Never Dies

CherishedPeople come into our lives for a reason and a season.  Sometimes their time with us is long and for others it is short.  We have the gift of connecting with those we love without knowing how long we will get to keep the connection. Cherish the moments you have and when they are gone, you will have those loving memories to help you through.  Even those times that were hard will carry new meaning for you because of the love underlying your relationship.  Always remember, that love between you never dies and they will always feel how much you care. Your love is the link that keeps you connected even as they move on to the other side.  ©September 21, 2013, Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

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Tranquility from Grace

Grace Grace is a state of being bestowed to us by God’s unmerited favor.  In truth, all we have to do to open ourselves to God’s Grace is seek Him in our lives and allow His unconditional love to flow to and from us.  Early in my life I asked a priest about Hell and he told me that “Hell is what is is like to be separated from God.”  In separation from Him, we often experience inner turmoil and discontent.  That pain is a suffering that can be healed with God’s Grace.  No matter what our mistakes or transgressions, God loves us unconditionally.  His Grace can heal us and release us from those certain emotional dark spots we encounter in our lives.   The closer we stay to Him, the more Grace we experience.  When you believe in Him, His Grace gets reflected in both your inner world and your outer reality. ©  September 9, 2013, Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

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Opening Your Heart

Love3The more you heal yourself of heartache, the greater your capacity to love.  If you are wounded, you will likely live from a defensive place that keeps people at a distance or restricts those you let close.  On the flip side, when some people are wounded they sometimes seek approval from others and often get re-wounded when others don’t give them the affirmation they need.  Those people may find they give their love to the wrong people or have too high an expectation from those they open up to.  Whatever the case, it is hard to fully open your heart if it keeps getting hurt.  Once you heal, the vulnerability you feel lessons and you begin living your life more for you.  You can then love from a place of confidence and inner peace.  Your heart will expand and you likely find you more frequently notice beauty in the things around you.  Remember that healing begins with your spirit.  It means connecting with that inner part of yourself and feeding your inner light.  Though some have a hard time recognizing their inner worth, it is important to know that we all originate from God and are equally deserving of his love.  It is also important to remember that healing the heart requires self love and that begins by changing the voice of your inner critic to  a voice  that expresses unconditional love.   © September 8, 2013, Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

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Love Lessons

daisyLove can be a difficult life lesson or it can be an experience that reflects the love of the Universe.  In order to attract love, you have to believe deep within you that you deserve it.  If you accept poor treatment or criticism, some part of you isn’t integrating the belief you deserve love.  One way to reprogram your mind to expect love is to daily affirm: “Today I expect to be treated lovingly in words and actions.”  Eventually, you will attract what you teach your mind to expect and it will feel natural to you.  To change your outer world, it helps to get your inner beliefs into agreement with the transformation you want to create in your life.

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