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Faith

faith3Beginning my path, I did not know where it would take me.  From the time I was a child, I had a strong spiritual connection.  It was something that “happened” to me more than it was something I participated in.  The strongest aspect of my intuition is my empathic ability.  I learned early to sense if someone was safe or not.  The ability to feel someone’s energy and to know their intentions is a pretty strong ability I experience.   Just as easily, I can sense people’s gifts and their light energy.  Sensing energy can be a pitfall.  It can create mental confusion and stress if you are not adept at clearing it and shielding from it.   Many people have a natural empathic ability and they are not always aware if the pain they experience is something that belongs to them  or if they picked it up from another person.  Feeling pain can be a block to staying connected to God’s light and love.  At the same time, it is His light and love that frees us from all the negative energy around us.

I once knew a special person who was taught conflicting messages about God.  God was used as part of any discipline he experienced and he became confused about whether God is loving or punishing. The actions of his parent caused that sense of confusion.   Many human acts are often blamed on God and then people associate the negative that happens in the world with Him.  They wonder how “it” could happen if He exists or they think He does not love them if they experience it.   Certain things are inevitable in our life experience.  We will experience death and loss as a natural progression of things.   Sometimes we are called home and sometimes our spirit wants to go back there.  We learn our lessons here and we become free of our physical constrictions so that we can return to God and live in spirit.  The rest is often a result of the actions of people who choose to live a life separate from God.  God allows us free will and choice.  When we choose to seek His love and protection,  we are often shielded from much of the negativity that would otherwise come our way.

Being a seeker means learning to take time to sit, pray and ask for His help and protection.  Staying connected to God requires taking action toward learning about Him and choosing Him to be a part of your life.  It is easier to stay connected if we seek help and healing for any past pain or difficulties we experience.  We have a clearer and more stable connection to Him if we feel a greater sense of love verses pain.  Sometimes all that is required is to ask in prayer that our emotions be healed and that He help us feel His love.

As I write this, I am reminded of how we are all just students learning.  I am trying to allow myself to be lead on this path in whatever way God wants.  I constantly seek His help in relationships, in work and in life.  I feel like the longer I am on this spiritual path, the more the ups and downs of life fine tune me into what He wants me to be.  It is a daily leap of faith and surrender.  Sometimes there is fear and sometimes there is exhilaration.   On those days I take the leap, I feel like a child jumping into the safe hands of my father.   © December 29, 2013, Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

 

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Hard Conversations

conversationsI was reminded yesterday of hard conversations.   Hard conversations are usually the most important.   They are filled with meaning and love.  They take us to the heart of who we are and what we really believe and want from those around us.  We often don’t want to have hard conversations and many people avoid them.  Fear can keep us from broaching things that need to and should be said.   When we have  those conversations, we talk from our spirit and become our most authentic and empowered.

I once read a book called the Tibetan Book of Living and Dying.  It mentioned a very important belief of living life like each day is your last so that you may live with no regrets. This is mainly because how we live affects our afterlife.  If we recognize that belief as true, that means it is important to go within and self-analyze.  Self-analysis is a form of checks and balances which allow us to live knowing we have been loving, forgiving and that we have done our best.  In our society, we often live busy lives and taking time to self-analyze can be hard to do.  We also have learned to try to seek “things” that will make us feel good rather than to look inside of ourselves to find peace within.  To protect our egos we often:  avoid hard conversations, hold on to resentments, use our defensiveness as a shield, live materialistically  and more.   It is sometimes not until we have been confronted with mortality that we begin our inner journey.  It is when those important questions arise that we more deeply look at ourselves and our purpose here.  Questions like, “If I die tomorrow, how will others remember me?” or “If I die tomorrow, will I go to Heaven?”  or “Did they know how much I loved them?”

The word “ego” really represents how we “ease God out.”  We begin thinking we are in control and living accordingly.  It can feel harder to self-analyze and to live from your spiritual center but it brings with it a more peaceful life.  It helps us to focus on what is really important.  It helps us to spend our time here wisely and from a place of love.  If we truly allow God “in”, we are allowing Good Orderly Direction to guide our lives.

Each of us is special and has a purpose here to fulfill.  Some of us do not even realize we are already living that purpose.  Each time we are there for someone else or share our faith, we impact others in a positive way.  With the crime and struggles we see in our society today, it is important to use our spiritual strength to create positive change.  Society breaking down is a sign of ego based living and result of pushing God out.   Our individual actions either contribute to that breakdown or fight against it.  We are all connected and we are each capable of creating positive change through things we do or say.   We each have a purpose and a responsibility in that whether big or small.

In meditation, I had a hard conversation.  I asked Jesus for some guidance.  My ego was hurt and I wanted to hear from Him some platitude or other.  As loving a spirit as he is,  I heard hard words.  He in no way wanted to stroke my ego.  He lovingly put me in my place.  He allowed me to release my selfish thinking much the same way we parent our children.  He told me that I needed to let go of what my ego wanted because he had expectations of me.   That I have a job to do and to basically move on from trivial things.   My idea that I could indulge in a little self-pity went out the window and I moved on.   Along with that, I released  my part in the problem and got focused on what I’m supposed to do.   Though I didn’t hear what I wanted to hear, I am grateful to be able to leave behind any negative thinking I was holding onto.

In doing readings, I am blessed. I have lots of hard conversations with people.  I see people in their most vulnerable and real state.  I’m given the opportunity to meet them there and I pray that the words that come out of my mouth are the most loving and authentic I am capable of being.   We each have the opportunity to be that for others if we remain open to listening and experiencing a deep connection with each person we meet.  When we do, it helps us far more than we are likely to help the other person.  We receive healing as we allow our own needs to take a back seat and we become reminded of what is important.  Life, Love, compassion and connection are just a few of the things we are privileged to experience and they are far more valuable in character building than any “thing” we could strive to attain.

Be open to hard conversations.  God may expect you to either be the recipient, the listener or the person speaking.  Look at them as an opportunity to grow and to make a positive impact.   Recognize opportunities that allow you to: make an amends,  to help  someone with direction or to share feelings.   Whatever the conversation is, be loving and be real.   When you struggle with what to say, ask God to speak through you.  Face each situation lovingly and from a perspective that leaves you free of regret.   Look at those moments as the gift they are.  We each get the opportunity to touch the lives of others and in so doing; we become changed as well. © November 22, 2013, Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

 

 

 

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Feeling connected to God

God1We don’t always feel our connection to God.  Sometimes the chaos around us can cause us to feel separate from Him.  It is those times that we can go within to seek that connection in order to turn things in a positive direction.  Simply close your eyes, take a few deep breaths,  envision light all around you and say “God”.  Then ask Him to help you feel His love.   Sit with that intention for a moment and see what happens.  Continue to ask until you sense Him.  It may happen right away or it may take time.  We get more results when we are dedicated to practicing going within.  © November 4, 2013 Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

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Love Never Dies

CherishedPeople come into our lives for a reason and a season.  Sometimes their time with us is long and for others it is short.  We have the gift of connecting with those we love without knowing how long we will get to keep the connection. Cherish the moments you have and when they are gone, you will have those loving memories to help you through.  Even those times that were hard will carry new meaning for you because of the love underlying your relationship.  Always remember, that love between you never dies and they will always feel how much you care. Your love is the link that keeps you connected even as they move on to the other side.  ©September 21, 2013, Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

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Tranquility from Grace

Grace Grace is a state of being bestowed to us by God’s unmerited favor.  In truth, all we have to do to open ourselves to God’s Grace is seek Him in our lives and allow His unconditional love to flow to and from us.  Early in my life I asked a priest about Hell and he told me that “Hell is what is is like to be separated from God.”  In separation from Him, we often experience inner turmoil and discontent.  That pain is a suffering that can be healed with God’s Grace.  No matter what our mistakes or transgressions, God loves us unconditionally.  His Grace can heal us and release us from those certain emotional dark spots we encounter in our lives.   The closer we stay to Him, the more Grace we experience.  When you believe in Him, His Grace gets reflected in both your inner world and your outer reality. ©  September 9, 2013, Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

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Opening Your Heart

Love3The more you heal yourself of heartache, the greater your capacity to love.  If you are wounded, you will likely live from a defensive place that keeps people at a distance or restricts those you let close.  On the flip side, when some people are wounded they sometimes seek approval from others and often get re-wounded when others don’t give them the affirmation they need.  Those people may find they give their love to the wrong people or have too high an expectation from those they open up to.  Whatever the case, it is hard to fully open your heart if it keeps getting hurt.  Once you heal, the vulnerability you feel lessons and you begin living your life more for you.  You can then love from a place of confidence and inner peace.  Your heart will expand and you likely find you more frequently notice beauty in the things around you.  Remember that healing begins with your spirit.  It means connecting with that inner part of yourself and feeding your inner light.  Though some have a hard time recognizing their inner worth, it is important to know that we all originate from God and are equally deserving of his love.  It is also important to remember that healing the heart requires self love and that begins by changing the voice of your inner critic to  a voice  that expresses unconditional love.   © September 8, 2013, Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

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Glimpses of Heaven

heavenWe only have to sit overlooking the water or on a majestic mountain top to glimpse the serenity of Heaven.   Many of us get busy and forget to enjoy the quiet and beauty of nature but it is one of our strongest connections to the other side.  The peace and quiet we find there is a reflection of what our loved ones feel.  Though Heaven is so much more, deceased loved ones often show me a similar scene to the one in the picture as a way of letting me know they are in a loving place.  If you imagine your most favorite place in nature with a little shimmer and the qualities of peace and love reflected in it, you are seeing a snapshot of  what it is like for those you love.   © September 2013, Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

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Releasing Grief

When we feel sad, it is natural to want to stuff or hide our feelings.  Remember, they come up to be released.  We may need to release old grief about how we have been treated or Peace5grief about losing someone we love.    It is important to recognize that grief comes from a variety of sources and experiences.  Though it is not fun to address old feelings, leaving your feelings unresolved often results in anxieties and fears.  It can also leave you more vulnerable to being hurt by others.   If sadness comes up, take time to acknowledge the source of your grief.  Then ask yourself when was the first time you felt a similar loss or feeling?  Share your grief with God and ask Him to help you with it.  Acknowledging your grief allows the healing process to begin.   Though it isn’t fun to explore where your emotions are coming from, it is the fist step to healing and finding peace. © August 2013 Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

 

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Handling Adversity

obstaclesA dear friend is facing issues with a person who is acting spiteful and she is handling the adversity from a spiritual perspective.   Situations like these come up for all of us and they can be confusing and painful.   Our immediate reaction may be to push back;  however, the most productive thing is usually to take a higher spiritual road.  We should never accept abuse from others but we are still responsible for how we respond.   If we learn to step back and release the situation we are struggling with to God, we can grow stronger with his help.  The person or thing causing us difficulty can ultimately be a teacher for us by raising us up to a higher spiritual level.   Fighting back only  pulls us down by making the lesson more painful and difficult.  Rarely is there a positive resolution and often you end up giving away your personal power by expending energy in the wrong direction.   If faced with adversity, recognize the situation is meant to teach you something.  Go within and ask yourself what you have learned from it.  Then ask yourself, “what would God do now?”  You can also ask that he give you what you need to heal or turn things in a positive direction.  When obstacles arise, it is rarely effective to try to push through them.  It is often more effective to take a step back and choose a higher path.© August 2013 Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

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Are you Really There?

Grief3We often don’t recognize when our loved ones are near.  They send us little signals that we can easily misinterpret or miss.  A loved one will try to get your attention by putting their memories in the front of your mind.  You may see a quick image of their face or think about things you did together.  If that happens, you are likely sensing their spiritual presence.  Those memories and images may make you feel sad but they can also give you hope that your loved one is watching over you and sending you signals to get your attention.   Acknowledge that you think they are there. This will likely encourage more of the same experiences as they visit you. It can be healing to know that you haven’t lost your relationship with them, it has just changed…   © August 2013 Nancy Hickman, M.Ed., LLC

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